[Verse one] You say you've changed, you say you've grown, But growth isn't self-assigned alone The ones you hurt are not obliged To leave the wreckage far behind You tell the crowd a different tale, You paint yourself with softer light But every tear you learned to show Can't make a wrong thing into right You want the credit, want the grace, Want everyone to clear your name But if the damage still remains, Then why should anything be changed? No, I won't pretend. No, I won't bend. No, I won't call it healing Because no matter how you see it, it didn't end. [Chorus] Don't recognize the change When the harm remains the same Don't hand them understanding When they never took the blame Your fear was real. Your hurt was real. The nights awake shaking And we don't owe forgiveness For the things they never healed The only way to leave the narcissist, is struggling [Verse two] Some people learn to wear regret The way a preacher wears a robe They memorize the proper words While never speaking any truth They hurt another, walk away, Then tell the world they're feeling pain And somehow everybody always asks The wounded ones to explain You call it growth, I call it fake You call it change, I call it small Because if accountability's missing, Then it doesn't matter much at all. [Pre-Chorus] No, I won't forget. No, not yet. You don't get rewarded For a debt you haven't met. [Chorus] Don't recognize the change When the truth remains the same. Don't hand them understanding When they never took the blame. My fear was real. My hurt was real. My shaking body left to die And I don't owe approval For a wound they didn't heal [Bridge] The only way to leave the narcissist Is struggling through the doubt The only way to leave the narcissist Is feeling terror and what you know about Your body says danger Your body says run But guilt is not a contract And fear is not a bond. They lash out They point fingers They rewrite every scene Because responsibility Is the one thing they've never seen [Final Chorus] Don't recognize the change Until the truth can stand the light Don't recognize the perspective Just because they're tired of the fight Not every person deserves a good life Some changes are too small And when they won't reflect, they don't matter at all. When their apologies have motive, let them go People who recognise their change more than other people recognise them, are passing through The strength of a relationship is built on confrontation and connection, not breaking the bond The way to leave the narcissist is struggling Don't play their game Don't recognise their change Don't fear their lashing out as a reason to take on blame Your body will go into survival but that's what's real Not them They will not take responsibility They're too trapped in fantasy Anti fantasy of you, they've invented what they feel, sets them free Some people are not deserving of joy Some people are not deserving of your time The only way to leave the narcissist is starving The only way to leave the narcissist is broken They say don't play the game and just walk away But sometimes the narcissist simply has to pay A psychological prison and you are the warden As they step into your realm, the arrest is allowed Your own trials are possible The jury of you The narcissist is not allowed to tell you what to do
