Title: Dating for Help, Not Love [Spoken Intro] Let’s tell the truth tonight… Some folks ain’t looking for a soulmate. They’re looking for a sponsor, a cosigner, and somewhere to stay. You motherfuckers dating for help—not love. [Verse 1] First date, asking what I drive, Second date, asking where I reside. You don’t care what’s inside my heart, You’re calculating what I can provide. You call me “baby” when the rent comes due, But when I need affection, I can’t find you. You ain’t trying to build—you just need a plug, You motherfuckers dating for help, not love. [Chorus] You motherfuckers dating for help, not love, Looking for a bailout, not somebody to trust. Calling it a relationship, but the bills come first, You don’t want a heart—you want a check on the first. If the money gets low, then the feelings dry up, Pack your bags and leave when the road gets rough. You ain’t building together—you just need a plug, You motherfuckers dating for help, not love. [Verse 2] You want somebody working two jobs, While you lay around playing victim all day. Talking about what a real man ought to do, But what do you bring when you come his way? And fellas do it too—let’s keep it real, Moving in with women just to dodge their bills. Using lonely hearts when the times get tough, You motherfuckers dating for help, not love. [Chorus] You motherfuckers dating for help, not love, Looking for a bailout, not somebody to trust. Calling it a relationship, but the bills come first, You don’t want a heart—you want a check on the first. If the money gets low, then the feelings dry up, Pack your bags and leave when the road gets rough. You ain’t building together—you just need a plug, You motherfuckers dating for help, not love. [Bridge] Ain’t nothing wrong with helping your mate, Real love shares everybody’s weight. But don’t sell a dream just to get what you need, Then disappear when it’s your turn to lead. Love says, “Baby, we’ll make it through.” Using says, “What can you do for me?” One plants roots and watches them grow, The other takes everything, then hits the road. [Breakdown – Call and Response] Do you love me? (Or just what I provide?) Would you stay here? (If the money ran dry?) Are we building? (Or am I being used?) Tell me the truth— (Before I choose!) [Final Chorus] You motherfuckers dating for help, not love, Looking for a come-up, not somebody to trust. You can fake that smile, but the truth shows up When the lights get cut and the going gets tough. Real love gives—it don’t only take, Real love stays when the good times break. If you only come around when you need a plug, You motherfuckers dating for help—not love. [Outro] Stop calling survival a relationship. Stop calling convenience commitment. If you only love what somebody can do for you… That ain’t love. That’s assistance.
