[Intro] I remember butterflies Thought they meant I was falling in love Maybe some of them were warnings You looked me in my eyes and told me I was safe with you I believed you That was my mistake [Verse 1] You knew exactly where my heart had scars I showed you every room, even gave you the cards Told you what hurt me Told you what I feared Told you what could make me disappear Every secret that I placed in your hands Became ammunition when you needed the upper hand Then you'd come back sweet Like we ain't just bleed Kiss the same wound You put on me Had me looking in the mirror Trying to find what I lacked While you kept moving the line Every time I adapted Too much! Then too quiet Too strong! Then too soft Till I asked myself, When did loving him Start costing you? [Pre-Chorus] You didn't make me insecure You found the places I hadn't healed And every time you touched them I blamed myself for what I'd feel But I'm different now I finally know Love ain't supposed to make you Negotiate with your soul [Chorus] You had her The woman who would ride for you, Pray for you, Build with you, Stay with you You had her The one who saw the man You hadn't even grown into I gave you love you couldn't buy Held your dreams when yours couldn't fly And while I was busy Showing you your worth I forgot mine You didn't lose me To somebody else Baby, you lost me When I found myself (Found myself) (Back to myself) You just didn't know How to love her [Verse 2] I made room at tables You ain't know how to sit at Put your name beside mine Never needed credit back When the money got funny I ain't disappear When your confidence broke I put belief in your ear But loyalty ain't servitude And love ain't debt Everything I gave you Was a choice, not a check So I don't need repayment Don't owe me regret Everything I poured Was tuition for the lesson Never finance somebody else's dream With the currency of me Never call it unconditional If abandoning yourself is the fee Never keep proving you're a prize To somebody treating you cheaply And never confuse How much you can endure With how deeply Somebody loves you [Pre-Chorus] I used to ask, "Why can't you see I'm the one?" Now I laugh Baby, I was asking the wrong one I see me That's enough [Chorus] You had her The woman who would ride for you, Pray for you, Build with you, Stay with you You had her The one who saw the man You hadn't even grown into I gave you love you couldn't buy Held your dreams when yours couldn't fly And while I was busy Showing you your worth I forgot mine You didn't lose me To somebody else Baby, you lost me When I found myself (Found myself) (Back to myself) You just didn't know How to love her [Bridge] Tread lightly Not because You'll never find another me There was never supposed To be another me Maybe you'll find somebody Perfect for who you become Maybe I'll find somebody Who already knows how to love But this version of me You don't get her twice She learned too much She healed too much She loves herself Too much now [Verse 3:] Had the house Had the heart Had the keys Had the trust Had the woman Had the love Still somehow Wasn't enough Not for me For you That's the difference I couldn't see I kept measuring my value By your capacity Can't pour ocean in a glass Then blame the ocean When it don't fit Can't hand somebody gold Then question gold Cause they don't know what it is Can't make somebody ready By loving them harder Can't build a grown man Then call yourself partner There it is I wasn't loving you anymore I was managing you And baby I resigned [Final Chorus] (YOU HAD HER!) The woman who would ride for you, Pray for you, Build with you You had her The one who saw tomorrow When you couldn't see past tonight I gave you love you couldn't buy Held your dreams when yours couldn't fly But I won't disappear Inside another man's life Just to prove I can be a good wife You didn't lose me To somebody else Baby, you lost me When I found myself (She found herself) (I found myself) (Back to me) You had her You just didn't know How to love her [Breakdown] I used to need you To understand what you lost I don't anymore I don't need regret To validate my worth I don't need you lonely To prove I was good to you I don't need your next woman To disappoint you For you to remember me That's still making My healing about you No I know what I brought I know what I gave And now I know what I keep [Outro] You had her (You had her) I found her (I found her) You lost her And I came home to her Me (Back to me) (Back to me)
