Gratitude in Healing After Partner Loss

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Healing after partner loss.

The loss of our 
primary relationship, 
our husband, wife 
or partner, 
is one of the most 
difficult things for 
us to go through.

The pain, loss and 
grief can be 
overwhelming.

One might ask,
 “what is there to 
be grateful for?”

I believe that every 
moment of my life 
is a gift from God, 
and that I must thank 
God and praise God 
for EVERYTHING in 
my life instead of 
pleading with God to 
change difficult 
situations.

I must accept the
bad things that
happen as part of
God’s plan to reveal
God’s perfect love
for me. 
In Romans 8:28 we
are told, “We know that
in ALL things God
works for good with
those who love God.”

What does this mean
for me today? 
If I surrender 
all to God, any 
thoughts or feelings
of loss, anger, 
loneliness, joy, 
frustration, 
unforgiveness, 
etcetera, then I
accept that God has
allowed these things
into my life in order
for me to grow
in some way.

When I say, thank you
Father Mother God for
this pain, even though
I don’t see any good in
it right now, 
I trust that you
have something to
teach me and I ask you
to help me stay open
to your word.

In Merlin 
Car-oth-ers book,
Power In Praise, he 
uses one hundred fifty
pages to continually
reinforce the ideas of;
“joyful acceptance of
the present condition,”
that the, “The turning
point cannot come until
we begin to praise God
FOR our situation
instead of crying out
to God to take it
all away,” and that,
“When we sincerely
accept and thank
God for a situation,
believing that God
has allowed it to
come about, there
is released into
that situation a
super natural,
divine force that
causes changes
beyond what can be
explained as an
unfolding of natural
events.”

If everything God does
is LOVE IN ACTION,
then it is much easier
for me to  say,
thank you God for
my car breaking
down today. 
Who is it you want
me to meet?
I trust you to give
me the words you
want them to hear,
and the courage
to speak them.

Instead of getting
frustrated at 
being late
I  begin to look 
forward to the
opportunity
ahead of me. 
Instead of anger
or depression,
I feel anticipation
and curiosity. 
I am happy to 
miss out
on anger or 
depression.

Thank you God that
I feel lonely today,
for it allows me
to feel your
unconditional love.

Remembering does
not always have to
be painful. 
I am grateful for
good memories,
however few,
and I consciously
choose not to obsess
about the
bad memories.

I have the knowledge
that I am safe in 
God’s arms of love. 
God’s presence here
gives me hope 
for each moment
and I am thankful
for that attitude 
of gratitude that
allows me to live,
feel and grow
instead of being lost
in hopelessness
or helplessness.

Gratitude is one gift
we can give
to ourselves to
help us move along
on the journey
of healing our
hearts, minds
and spirits.
Sometimes 
it is difficult
to find anything
to be thankful for. 
It may sound
impossible.

To help you with
making an attempt at
developing an attitude
of gratitude,
write out your own
worksheet called
God Incidences.

Please take a few
minutes each day to
write down your
thoughts such as
Today I am
grateful for,
and why you
are grateful for it.
You may share what you
have discovered in
grief groups or keep it
to yourself if that
feels safer for you.

It is a tool for you 
to use to learn about 
yourself and what 
God is doing
in your life.
Take it home.
Use the worksheet
whenever you 
want a lift to
find something 
good.

Here are some 
Gratitude Thoughts, 
to help
you get started.

Today I am grateful,
that I got up 
out of bed.
Today I am grateful,
I ate healthy, 
whole food.
Today I am grateful,
for a restorative
night’s sleep.

Today I am grateful,
for a smile 
from a stranger.
Each one is unique.

Remember them,
consider whether it
applies to you or
someone in your life
and notice what comes
into your mind.

What can you think of
to be grateful 
for today?
Then consider what
 you can do to bring
more of that thing
into your life.

Thank you for sharing
this time with me.

I hope you will learn 
to live a life of 
gratitude and 
share that with 
the world.

Living life with a
conscious decision,
to root myself in an
attitude of gratitude,
brings moments of 
grace every day.

Wishing you, 
moments,
of grace, every day.

Wishing you, 
moments, 
of grace, every day.

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Healing after partner loss. The loss of our primary relationship, our husband, wife or partner, is one of the most difficult things for us to go through. The pain, loss and grief can be overwhelming. One might ask, “what is there to be grateful for?” I believe that every moment of my life is a gift from God, and that I must thank God and praise God for EVERYTHING in my life instead of pleading with God to change difficult situations. I must accept the bad things that happen as part of God’s plan to reveal God’s perfect love for me. In Romans 8:28 we are told, “We know that in ALL things God works for good with those who love God.” What does this mean for me today? If I surrender all to God, any thoughts or feelings of loss, anger, loneliness, joy, frustration, unforgiveness, etcetera, then I accept that God has allowed these things into my life in order for me to grow in some way. When I say, thank you Father Mother God for this pain, even though I don’t see any good in it right now, I trust that you have something to teach me and I ask you to help me stay open to your word. In Merlin Car-oth-ers book, Power In Praise, he uses one hundred fifty pages to continually reinforce the ideas of; “joyful acceptance of the present condition,” that the, “The turning point cannot come until we begin to praise God FOR our situation instead of crying out to God to take it all away,” and that, “When we sincerely accept and thank God for a situation, believing that God has allowed it to come about, there is released into that situation a super natural, divine force that causes changes beyond what can be explained as an unfolding of natural events.” If everything God does is LOVE IN ACTION, then it is much easier for me to say, thank you God for my car breaking down today. Who is it you want me to meet? I trust you to give me the words you want them to hear, and the courage to speak them. Instead of getting frustrated at being late I begin to look forward to the opportunity ahead of me. Instead of anger or depression, I feel anticipation and curiosity. I am happy to miss out on anger or depression. Thank you God that I feel lonely today, for it allows me to feel your unconditional love. Remembering does not always have to be painful. I am grateful for good memories, however few, and I consciously choose not to obsess about the bad memories. I have the knowledge that I am safe in God’s arms of love. God’s presence here gives me hope for each moment and I am thankful for that attitude of gratitude that allows me to live, feel and grow instead of being lost in hopelessness or helplessness. Gratitude is one gift we can give to ourselves to help us move along on the journey of healing our hearts, minds and spirits. Sometimes it is difficult to find anything to be thankful for. It may sound impossible. To help you with making an attempt at developing an attitude of gratitude, write out your own worksheet called God Incidences. Please take a few minutes each day to write down your thoughts such as Today I am grateful for, and why you are grateful for it. You may share what you have discovered in grief groups or keep it to yourself if that feels safer for you. It is a tool for you to use to learn about yourself and what God is doing in your life. Take it home. Use the worksheet whenever you want a lift to find something good. Here are some Gratitude Thoughts, to help you get started. Today I am grateful, that I got up out of bed. Today I am grateful, I ate healthy, whole food. Today I am grateful, for a restorative night’s sleep. Today I am grateful, for a smile from a stranger. Each one is unique. Remember them, consider whether it applies to you or someone in your life and notice what comes into your mind. What can you think of to be grateful for today? Then consider what you can do to bring more of that thing into your life. Thank you for sharing this time with me. I hope you will learn to live a life of gratitude and share that with the world. Living life with a conscious decision, to root myself in an attitude of gratitude, brings moments of grace every day. Wishing you, moments, of grace, every day. Wishing you, moments, of grace, every day.

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